Feeling alone, lost, overwhelmed– this is how the participants of the Spousal Loss Support Group described how they felt when they lost their spouses. The group of seven have been getting together once a week for the past eight weeks to understand their grief and learn coping strategies to move forward.

The theme of the support group was “Embracing Tomorrow Together” and it provided a safe and supportive environment to foster healing, resilience, and hope for a brighter tomorrow.

Led by Hospice Intake and Group Program Coordinator, Lisa Adams with assistance from Supportive Care Volunteer, Sandy, the participants had varying backgrounds and experiences but, because they had all lost their spouses, they shared that mutual understanding.

“My family members have experienced loss but not specifically spousal loss, so it was hard for them to understand what I was going through,” shared Victoria. “With this group, I could share openly with others who had been through the same thing. That makes it a bit easier. When I’m at home, I have to be strong for my children so the group gave me a place where I could be open and vulnerable.”

“I lost my spouse after being his caregiver for over 10 years. Afterwards, I questioned my purpose. This group allowed me to grieve openly and provided me with good coping skills. I now feel good about myself again and my decisions,” shared Pat.

Each week, the group would discuss different topics or theories such as continuing bonds with loved ones, caring for ourselves, or dealing with special days. Discussion included checking in with everyone, answering questions, and providing coping strategies.

Individuals were encouraged to share at their own comfort level and the pace of the discussion was controlled by the group.

“I was not used to asking for help,” shared Donna, “but this group helped me move from a dark place to where I feel happy again, which I didn’t think was possible. I now know I can handle whatever life throws at me. Without the group, I don’t think I would be where I am.”

“This group helped me understand myself a lot more and I know I’m not alone,” shared Cynthia. “I have a long way to go yet but I’ve got a lot out of this group, and I am really glad that it was available.”

“I knew I needed help but didn’t know where to go,” shared Joe. “The biggest help this group has offered me was the opportunity to meet with others who have been through the same thing.”

“My loss was quick, and I was just a puddle. I tried to talk to family members, but they were going through their own grief,” shared John. “I’m not a big talker but just listening to others in the group has helped me get through.”

Shared in memory of James, Ben, Donald, Shannon, Karen, and Joanne